General Chat / Dating

Instead of thinking about it as being single, think about it as swimming in money.

Man, I signed in after another hiatus to quote this post. My last ladyfriend broke it off with me after almost 4 years a little over a year ago. I never paid attention to how much I spent on her because I didn't care. I was perfectly willing to give her every cent of my money. But when she wasn't there to take it, then it started piling up.


So I bought a house.
[1800 sqft ranch in NEOhio, 3bed 2bath, 2 car attached garage, 1/3 acre]


I didn't think I spent THAT much on her. I mean, the last thing I bought for her was a car...


(btw, Kumba, I did not realize we were so close in age. Can you believe this place has been active for more than a decade?)

Anybody here try Tinder?

 

Success/fail stories? Good first lines?

I haven't personally, but I know someone who does use it and to some success.

 

It just depends on how 'committed' a person is to meeting up. If you meet someone enthusiastic to meet up then great, but it's also full of people that aren't bothered about meeting anyone and are just on there.

I've heard a lot of success stories. I'm getting my first smartphone soon and I'm definitely trying it, because it sounds hilarious. If only the what we call over here the 'meat sampling' aspect of it must be an amazing pastime.

I'm a bit skeptical about new technology. Smartphones have ruined quite a bit of social interaction... Just look around you at parties. And spontaneous social contact on the streets is dying. Somehow it's often considered weird to converse with strangers. Tinder sort of replaces this spontaneous interaction, and encourages to put the smartphone away and meet up in real life. In my opinion it's the modern equivalent of asking that pretty girl at the bakery out 50 years ago.

You mean you don't go into a Bakery nowadays and ask a pretty girl if you can feel her baps?

"You got the buns, I got the hot dog."

I found a girl from one of my classes on Tinder last night. It's a games class, so when we've talked before I've told her about RCT, but just that it's a fun creative outlet, nothing about NE, or contests, or anything like that. Anyways, found her on Tinder, somehow, then told her about it. We both had a good laugh, because we both found it to be a pretty unexpected situation. Then I asked her out, only to be caught with "Sure, but just as friends."

Obviously I need to use my RCT skills to woo her into a romantic relationship. 

In all seriousness though, I respect her decision, and I'm glad to get a new friend. It wasn't what I was expecting, but it's still a great outcome.

I learn my worldview from https://twitter.com/tinderfessions

 

itm the friendzone or "LJBF" is the go-to rejection women use to not hurt your feelings, and men fall for it as women use men this way to get what they want from men (attention and favors) but men don't get what they want from the women (sex). Men rationalize this by thinking they will get what they want at a future date, but it never works and you're just wasting your time.

 

In all reality, if a women uses tinder, she is probably a slut.

I have restrained myself from saying something(s) I might regret.

But i am now back in.... geewhzz not all women say your in the friendzone because they dont want to hurt your feelings alot of women say that because they dont think that you might actually want more from the relationship.... so that their own feelings dont get hurt. I dont really think itm should be taking advise from people on this website because lets face it, The only pussy most people on this website has seen is the one they fell out of when they where born. 

 

At the end of the day ITM if you like this girl then you may aswell go for it. Because if you do like her and dont go for it you might regret it. and of course if she says no, I like you only as a friend just laugh it off and say of course what? did you think i liked you more than that hahaah...

I wasn't asking for advice, just sharing a story. I tend to give women the opposite impression, S_F, that I'll be a good partner but not put out. Among friends I present as pretty old-fashioned and conservative, which leads people to believe I'm not open to these things. And at this moment, that's honestly the truth. I wasn't looking to hook up with her, I just wanted someone to hang out with. I'm still getting over a break-up, I'm not looking for love or sex, just a friend, so I'm actually really happy with how this turned out.

 

It was just an interesting story because the universe seemed to be handing me these things. "Hey Tim, here's a cute single questionably promiscuous girl that you share interests with and who is already close to you." Maybe it'll go somewhere in the future, maybe it won't, but I'm happy with how it turned out for now anyways. 

I hope none of that made me sound like a sap. 

Or the next kumba...

I'm learning so much about NE people through this topic and a good portion of it is stuff I wish I didn't know...

 

Let's get this part straight. There is no "friendzone." Just because you are kind to a woman and she doesn't reciprocate your feelings, which mostly are for sexual attention, doesn't mean she has to repay you with dates or sex or anything like that. A woman has no obligation to find you attractive in anyway whatsoever, and it is not her issue if you felt led on; that is your own personal issue and says more about your ability to foster a meaningful relationship with a woman and how you view her as a person than it does about her own personality. The whole concept reeks of male entitlement, as if the world should hand you pussy on a platter for being a decent person. It reeks of seeing women as sexual commodities, and it reeks of seeing women merely as a prize to be one or a possession than actually seeing them as people with their own free agency, free to "be a slut" or free to turn you down. If your complaint is that you end up in the friendzone, perhaps the real issue is your own view towards women.

 

And if she's a slut, so be it. As long as  she's being safe about it, go her. It's her own sexual agency and she should have the right to exercise it however she wants to.

Lol, Just put on your RCT goggles rob and get back to what you do best playing RCT

For my own clarification here, I do not think I "deserved" anything here. I just saw that I was put into a nice position where the only two reasonable outcomes put me in either a relationship or a friendship with a really cool, really attractive person.

pretty much what robbie says.

 

personally i don't believe in the friendzone though, because that would imply that getting a new friend (assuming she actually wants to be your friend), which is always nice 

I talked to a female once

whats a female

Friendzone is an overhyped term. Platonic male-female relationships aren't always bad, on the contrary. It can get bad if one falls for the other, but the other doesn't reciprocate. It can get worse if the other abuses the situation to gain attention and favours (as gee described). But that's a worst case scenario I've never witnessed yet. Best case scenario is that friends can still become more than friends after a long period of time. There's not a point of no return as the 'friendzone' pretty much suggests.




I don't know who I'm arguing with.

whats a female

Imagine.... TWO Mount Bakers!

two mount bakers gawd damn