General Chat / Divorce

Why not?

I don't like the idea of promoting divorce as a good thing. What's the point in getting married just so you can get divorced as it feels good?

And no I do not Mifune.

I don't know if 'ironic' is the correct word to use, here...but, um, you left your wife cause she was cheating on you? Aren't you technically cheating if you're dating three different women? Kind of contradictory (that sounds like the right word to use). Plus one of them is married? Why do you want to risk putting her through the same thing you did? No offense JKay, I'm not attacking you here, but maybe I just don't fully understand what you mean. Good to hear you're doing okay, though.

Hey JKay, good to hear you're doing well. Divorce is a horrible thing to go through, when you're in the mindset that you're going to spend the whole of the rest of your life with someone and suddenly that all changes, it's difficult to adjust. And it sounds like you've unleashed yourself back onto the field with a vengeance! Fair enough, just make sure you're not causing harm elsewhere, but obviously you're in a far better position to judge that than we are.

Good to see you around.

Now here's my POV on JKay's dating:

Now I may be completely wrong and JKay could be a very bad man (hopefully not), but when he says he's 'dating' 3 girls, I think you all forget that 1. it's called dating for a reason - that reason being that he's not in a relationship and is just trying to get to know them atm, and 2. it's dating... it's not serious. Maybe it's for the sex, which falls under JKay being the pimp daddy someone mentioned before.

Oh, and divorce isn't always the worst for a child. Like for myself and m brother, my parents separated when I was young, but they didn't hate each other when they divorced. They were intelligent enough to have joint custody over both of us and therefore lessen the chance that we have a parental role missing throughout our lives which causes a lot of turmoil later on in life. My parents are just about friends now and have never shown any type of negative disposition towards each other (or they hid it well, which they should get an award for).

Anywho, that's my 2.32 cents.

I should also mention that the throwing around of the phrase "pimp daddy" in this topic is rather laughable.

Yes, but for the moment it will be used to boost JKay's ego. God knows he may need it.

Nice jkay! good to hear things are going good.

As for the whole divorce thing, of course it isn't great for the kids. But staying married when you should get a divorce is worse, so seemingly it's the best option. And there's no such thing as, what if. Things are how they are, get used to it.

I don't know how this fits into the entire conversation here, because jkay was married, so is not cheating. He's dating 3 women, he's not married to them. One is married, but i don't see how that is his problem. It's hers.

And fuck your wife, not to be taken literally. If she actually wants you back because she's having a baby now she should have thought about that earlier and had the baby with you. Taking care of someone else's baby must be like the worst possible scenario you can get in. (don't)

All the best.

I don't know if 'ironic' is the correct word to use, here...but, um, you left your wife cause she was cheating on you? Aren't you technically cheating if you're dating three different women? Kind of contradictory (that sounds like the right word to use). Plus one of them is married? Why do you want to risk putting her through the same thing you did? No offense JKay, I'm not attacking you here, but maybe I just don't fully understand what you mean. Good to hear you're doing okay, though.

It all depends on what kind of 'dating' it is; as long as it's the casual kind of dating, then there really shouldn't be a problem. But dating the married girl is pretty out of line.

Welcome back jKay and it's good to see you enjoying life again.

JJ - You don't get married so you can get a divorce. I'm pretty sure when jKay tied the knot, he wasn't planning on getting a divorce. People change, life event changes, situations happen that in order to keep your sanitity and the sanitiy of the others (such as children), divorce is the best courst of action. How the two adults handle the divorce is completly different and what can make it bad or good.

Again, good to see you again!

James

Tackle drunk bitches.

I should also mention that the throwing around of the phrase "pimp daddy" in this topic is rather laughable.

yes, and that was the point in saying it.

I agree, it's much worse than being kidnapped by a paedophile, raped and tortured for a week and then being strangled to death.

Thanks for pouncing on my oversight and taking that literally.

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Jkay you beast glad to see you're livin' it up. Hope you do start playin rct2 again, you were definatly one of my my (if not the) most favourite parkmakers. Is that you in your av?

Thanks. I really do miss RCT and this place, but I just don't have the patience for RCT anymore. And quite honestly I don't know how I was so patient when I did play. I was clearly not happy in my personal life when I played RCT so maybe that's why I invested so much time in it

You're dating a married girl? Seriously?

Well, if you consider dating any or all of the following:
(note that I work with this girl, so I see her everyday regardless if I want to)

1. Going out to lunch almost everyday together
2. Going out other places (park, mall, etc) together after/during work
3. Talking on the phone (outside of work)
4. Hugging/ flirting

I'll leave that one up to you guys. I'm obviously not being an idiot about this one. She has a lot of baggage, but I really, really like this girl and I've managed to restrain from making any major moves because I know what its like to be on her dude's side of the fence. I doubt it will get far because I refuse to be an asshole, dick or bastard or any other deragatory names for men. I'll keep you updated.

Why not?

For real. Part of me does feel a little bad for leading on a married girl, but I honestly can't help it. As mentioned above, I REALLY like her and I KNOW she likes me.....its just so fun, ya know. She knows I have the control in this relationship and I think its driving her nuts that I'm not taking it to the next level *smirk*

I don't know if 'ironic' is the correct word to use, here...but, um, you left your wife cause she was cheating on you? Aren't you technically cheating if you're dating three different women? Kind of contradictory (that sounds like the right word to use). Plus one of them is married? Why do you want to risk putting her through the same thing you did? No offense JKay, I'm not attacking you here, but maybe I just don't fully understand what you mean. Good to hear you're doing okay, though.

Someone else in this topic answered this. To me, dating implies that you are trying to find new relationships without necessarily making a committment. I have not committed to any of these girls yet. I've only gone on one date with the girl I like the most (not the married/pregnant one) and have a second date tomorrow, so its probably a bit too soon to tell.

Welcome back jKay and it's good to see you enjoying life again.

JJ - You don't get married so you can get a divorce. I'm pretty sure when jKay tied the knot, he wasn't planning on getting a divorce. People change, life event changes, situations happen that in order to keep your sanitity and the sanitiy of the others (such as children), divorce is the best courst of action. How the two adults handle the divorce is completly different and what can make it bad or good.

Again, good to see you again!

James

Exactly. At the time of marriage, divorce really never crosses your mind. However, I can say that I did not (and should have) put way more thought in my decision to marry her now that I think about it.


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What you're doing with the married girl isn't really wrong, I suppose. I'm glad you're at least trying to keep it from becoming a sort of triangle. But if she really likes you, tell her to work out any issues she may have with her current husband (i.e. dump him) before taking it much further. Because even if what you're doing isn't technically dickish, it's probably still liable to get you punched in the face should you ever meet that guy.

Oh and uh I think getting involved with a pregnant girl is terribly risky because, you know, kids make things miserable, especially if it isn't yours.

glad to see things are going well for you man. just be careful how things end up with the married girl; you already know what it's like to be on the other side of that and blah blah, haha. best of luck.

Well glad to read some happy news from you JKay... great to hear you're on the prowl again looking for that real right woman. Good luck with everything!

golden.

No question about it. My life has only improved since my divorce. I was just thinkin' about all the awesome people at this site and figured it was time to let you all know what's going with JKay. I knowt this my personal stuff, but WTF, I'm having too much fun not to post this and NE has always been a good place for some drama.

I haven't played RCT in over 6 months (except for my dismal guest attempt on Kumba's park). I now find it difficult even to play video games. My new thing is hip hop music. I'm actually working on producing my own beats. I love it. I'm also into some sports now, like golf, racquetball and tennis.

As for my personal life, well, its gettin' good now. I'm currently dating three girls with a pregnant/married girl also in the mix. DATING IS NOT EASY. lol. My ex-wife is now pregnant by the man she cheated on me with and the guy is denying the child. From what I can tell, she is now trying to get me to be this kid's father. Um, can you say NO!....lol

Anyway, its good to NE is still alive and kicking. It'd be nice to see you guys chime in. I know turtle and john both pm'd me awhile ago....sorry for not responding....

Loving life...
JKay

Well, first off, if it's just hugs and fun, the married girl doesn't count as dating.

But to me it sounds like life is on the upswing for you. The ordeal you were just through was probably shit and you're free from a whole wealth of problems that you were thinking about earlier.

I'm glad to see you're back on top of the game of life.

Best wishes.